Anger seeks the quickest path to release. It sparks, catches flame, and tries to ignite through the closest and quickest channel possible. What makes anger so hard is that it can feel unstoppable. That you are powerless to it. And when you fail over and over to quell it you begin to think that...
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Sometimes we become so immersed in our own problems. We think things won’t get better. We get sad. We lose sight of the long term. And then suddenly we move past them. Things aren’t quite as hard. Maybe even good. And the transition is so subtle we might not even notice. Or take the...
Continue readingHeal You In Small Ways
When my mom was in the hospital before she died I remember rubbing lotion on her hands. She asked me too. There was one particular corner of her thumb that was dry and cracked and rough. My mom never had dry hands. And I remember rubbing lotion on that spot on her thumb and...
Continue readingCould Be Worse
We all goes through difficult things in life. Trials and tribulations. Worry. Stress. Sadness. Fear. Sometimes we are so immersed in the moment that we become narrowly focused on our own suffering. And sometimes the things we go through give us perspective. Reason to be grateful. It’s important to acknowledge those moments. To understand...
Continue readingJust Keep Trying
If it’s important. Persist. Do what it takes. Get it done. Especially when you’re doing it for someone else who can’t do it for themselves. That’s all. I’ve got to get back to trying now....
Continue readingSomething Small
It might feel like it doesn’t matter. That it won’t change anything. That it’s trivial. But maybe it’s not. Whatever “it” is. A hug. A smile. A congratulations. A chocolate bar. Hearing and seeing another human being. It matters. We might not be able to completely change someone’s life. Or change their circumstances with...
Continue readingMy Mom’s Voice
The other night I had rolled over and closed my eyes for not more than two minutes when I heard my mom’s voice clear as day say “Margot.” I snapped my eyes open because I thought she was right next to me. I haven’t heard my mom’s voice in six years. It startled me....
Continue readingHow To Beat Exhaustion
First of all – laugh. You can’t be exhaustion. But also here are some things that actually help me get through fatigue. Whipped cream in my coffee. This might seem decadent but those fluffy clouds of creamy sweetness make the morning a little more bearable. A good blog. Something that’s thought provoking and short...
Continue readingNo Experts
No one is an expert on you. Or your kids. Or your relationships. Or your job. Or your passions. Only you are. And that can feel very isolating sometimes. Because no matter how much you read or who you talk to they don’t know a quarter as much as you do about your own...
Continue readingWhat Do I Know?
Love is good. My boys are darn cute. My wife is incredibly hard working, fierce, and resilient. Take some things seriously and others don’t. Coffee. Just coffee. But seriously, coffee. Anger can be productive until it consumes you. Letting go is far better than a strangle hold. I need to write more. Having dinner...
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