When I was a kid, maybe seven or eight, I was waiting for my mom to finish grocery shopping. I had been nagging her out of boredom so she sent me outside to wait. Not something I would do with my kids now but it was the 80s in Ohio and perhaps the prospect...
Continue readingWhat Hurts Now Helps Later
When my mom was little she was playing near my grandmother (her mother) while she was ironing clothes. My mom was being nettlesome and kept trying to touch the iron and my grandmother kept telling her no. “You’ll burn yourself.” In spite of the warning my moms little arm kept darting out attempting to...
Continue readingThe Balloon Effect
Life is all about air. Breathing in. Breathing out. In with the much needed oxygen. Out with the toxic carbon dioxide. There’s a reason it feels good to sigh. Kids love balloons. When they’re filled with air they spend countless hours throwing them. Chasing them. Bouncing them. But eventually they deflate and the fun...
Continue readingIt’s All Math After All
I’ve been talking to Lou about feelings lately. And how they are kind of like a math equation. You have a bad feeling or a bad moment, well that’s like a negative sign or subtraction. You’ve taken something away. And you need to add something to make it positive again. So you have to...
Continue readingWhen It’s Loud
Covid changed so many things. Or maybe it just brought about things we had suppressed or that had lain dormant for so long. We experienced fear and isolation. We were stuck inside unable to travel or see friends and family. Suddenly the world felt very small and confining. There was a profound sense of...
Continue readingShine A Light
Forgive me if this post is rambling but it has been ages since I did this. Too long. Maybe it’s the fact that my daughter turned one yesterday. Or that work is crazy. Or that my plate is full. Or I just have a lot of things that have been pent up to say....
Continue readingResistance
To resist is the opposite of to embrace. Both require energy and effort. One requires the power to push back. The other the strength to let go. For some reason we choose resistance even when we know letting go will lead to something better, more meaning or growth. We are human. Imperfect. We slip...
Continue readingThen And Now
Every lifetime is an evolution. We learn as we go and ideally continue to learn until the day we die. While we may grow older we are still growing even if we are heading to some sort of inevitability. It’s impossible not to look back on our younger selves as we age in years....
Continue readingWiggle Room
Because if we say no definitively then we have to do the hard work of figuring something out. Of solving the problem. And it’s always easier to have an in, however backward and manipulative it may be, than it is to find another way....
Continue readingEnduring
The wins. The losses. The promotions. The money. Belongings. Things. They are fleeting. The love we cultivate and nurture. That is enduring. Nothing matters more. The love. Te amo. Always....
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