“Why did I wait so long?” How many times have you done something in your life that when you finally did it prompted you to say that? If you can look at the decisions in your life and frame them in this context what would that mean? What is something you’re deciding on that...
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Before you make a decision you might regret. Think twice. Usually our first instinct is muddled by emotion, which can sometimes cause us to behave less than our best. Thinking twice gives us space to consider how we really feel. To weigh pros and cons. And to make a decision that we can feel...
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To just let it go. It feels so bad to be pissed off. To clench your jaw in anger. It builds to a point of frustration but with nowhere to vent it it gets stuck. But you can just choose to let it go. I’m doing it as I write this. Because I don’t...
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Lemon Cream Yogurt Lou dancing Julian’s smile Kady’s laughter Good beer Really good red wine Walking Daydreaming Growing zucchini Picking apples Baking Swimming Listening to podcasts Reading Hugs Scones Butter Heavy cream New clothes Changing someone’s life Passionate discussions All the coffee The morning from 5-8 am Sunrises Sunsets Sleeping in Thinking of my...
Continue readingWhen The Noise Stops
We live in a noisy world. People talking too loudly. Open offices. Traffic. Music. Sirens. Television. Social media. So much noise. We spend our time trying to block it out so we can focus. But then when we do have a quiet moment we can’t think. It’s feels too empty. Maybe we need the...
Continue readingThere’s No “We” In Quitting
Why do we complain? Why do we get frustrated Why do we quit? We can’t solve a problem. We don’t see a way out. We become demoralized. But I say that’s the perfect time to pioneer a new way. To step up and lead. To do. The common trait of complaining and being frustrated...
Continue readingA Rant About Rowing Grip
I have coached a lot of rowers. Anyone from high schoolers to collegiate athletes to octogenarians. Typically, older rowers really struggle with grip and controlling the oars. Whether it’s muscular tension or just plain fear this is the single biggest prohibitive factor I observe in their rowing. New rowers struggle with grip as well,...
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Eventually we have to return. To reality. To work. To dreams and goals and progress. To the Earth as ashes. There is always a returning to at some point. It’s important to leave sometimes. To learn. To gain clarity. To raise babies. To separate ourselves from the routine and realize what matters and what...
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Labor never ends. Even after you’ve given birth. Even after you’ve cleared the lawn of weeds and laid down mulch. Even after you’ve met a deadline. Even after you’re kids are grown up and now you’ve got an empty nest. The work of parenting, earning, supporting, learning, growing, discovering never ends. The labor of...
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Stop trying to be clever. Long pause. What would I want to hear right now? This is hard. All of it. Life. Making it work. Dealing with the stress. Constantly looking out for danger. Constantly being exhausted. Constantly being edgy and testy and saying the wrong thing in the wrong tone. Celebrate the moments....
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