My mom played the piano. My brothers and I would sing Christmas carols or Phantom of the Opera, Les Mis and others. She always wanted me to sing Castle On A Cloud. I never thought I had a particularly good voice. But I could sing. And I sang it when she wanted me to....
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= Separate or cause to separate into pieces as a result of a blow, block, or strain. And sometimes you have to break to heal. It’s painful, arduous, scary. We are exposed. Our limitations on display. But a break can heal twice as strong as it was before. So we can’t give up. No...
Continue readingIt’s Gonna Be Ok
These are important words to hear. I am all for self-reliance. But sometimes it’s helpful to hear the support of a loved one. Someone who knows what you’re going through and cares. Someone who can reassure you when times are tough. Be strong. Be resilient. Persevere. But also it’s not weak to be comforted...
Continue readingPut Your Foot Down
When do you do it? Say no more. This is done. When the harm being done outweighs any of the good. It can be like getting out of an abusive situation. There’s always glimmers of hope and small wins here and there that keep you hanging on. Playing on your nature to give just...
Continue readingThere’s No Perfect
Tonight I read a silly little book to my son before bed. It had little furry patches on the animals bellies. And each time he touched one he giggled with delight. It made me smile. And laugh. And changed my mood entirely. It had been a tough day (week, month) for a number of...
Continue readingFight Or Flight
Sometimes my baseline response to pain can get the better of me. If someone gives me difficult feedback or criticizes me it can make me want to run or fight. And those instincts are good in many cases. They keep me safe or allow me to defend what’s mine and what I believe in....
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I remember your faces and dances. The stories you’d tell me about all the goofy things you’ve done. It made me smile. I hadn’t thought about how silly you were for quite some time. It was one of the first times in a long while that I didn’t cry and get upset when thinking...
Continue readingWhat You Don’t Agree With
Is worth examining. Rather than writing someone or something off. It’s a time to reflect. To understand where your passions come from and what you believe. It’s a chance to grow. We should be wary when we get the urge to dig our heels in deeper. We may not be wrong. But it’s important...
Continue readingHigh And Low
You go up. And you go down. To expect a flat ride out of life would not only be absurd it would be so boring. Ride the highs and endure the lows. You can’t have one without the other. It’s still a beautiful journey that we get to live out....
Continue readingSwept Away
That is what can become of our dreams, the things that matter to us, if we don’t pay attention. And we need to pay attention. To ponder what matters to us. So we can keep committing to it over and over again. If we don’t pay attention one day passes. Then another. And then...
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