What matters is right now in this moment. I’m singing to you while you look at me. I feel the warmth of your little body fresh from the bath. I smell your baby smell. The nightlight glowing soft and warm in the corner of the room. The future is undefined. It will be what...
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Two things I learned today. 1. Don’t assume people want to help. Or know how to help. 2. Don’t over share There are assholes everywhere. And they might not even intend to be. But they end up being that way because they don’t know how to communicate. Or make assumptions. Or don’t know how...
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If it scares you, it’s probably worth doing. Don’t let fear, a very natural biological response stop you from doing things that matter. You’ll get past the fear in the first five minutes. And the rewards are greater than the initial anxiety you face. Facing your fears, doing things that take you out of...
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Right now I’m feeling so grateful that my family is safe at home. It’s so easy to make our lives feel routine and secure and predictable. But we are all tenuous in reality. We can’t predict the behavior of other people or random things that might happen. All the more reason to say I...
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You do something wrong. Or overreact. Lash out in anger. Act like a jerk. And then apologize. But then it happens again. Then you apologize again. And so it repeats and becomes ingrained. Good habits aren’t just about stopping bad ones. They are about creating new and more productive or even more passive responses...
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I don’t always appreciate these moments. When I’m holding my son as he falls asleep. Mouth slightly open and face relaxed and soft. He won’t always be small and snuggly. One day he’ll be too big to hold against my heart as he sleeps. I am often waiting for these moments to be over...
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So many things in my life have been a matter of just getting through. Surviving until the end or until something is different or easier. And I might make it through but did I learn anything valuable that could improve my life outside of the immediate situation? Probably not. I’m faced with challenges right...
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What I’ve learned so far this year is that without a clear goal or purpose for this blog I will easily fall into passivity about it. I need something that I can hold myself accountable to. The other thing I’ve learned is that if I want to be good at something I’ve got to...
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Of time … Of money … Of patience … Of energy … Of creativity … You start to compromise what really matters. You take shortcuts or settle. The key is to never get below zero. Finding ways to save or replenish so that you don’t get into a situation where you could make a...
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Yesterday I realized something. Passion makes compromise hard. It can make you selfish if you let it. And it’s difficult to relinquish something that matters so someone else can have their thing. But doing that feels better than holding on. It all matters. And sometimes something is going to have to give. It’s just...
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