Avoidance

Just doesn’t work. Waiting. Putting something off. It won’t just happen. And the later you wait the worse your fear and stress becomes. It’s a matter of creating space to face the pain. Right here. Right now. Because either way there will be pain. So why wait? Pain doesn’t have to be bad. It...

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Closed

I’m tired. Deeply tired. This week was nuts. I don’t have much to say. I just want to sleep. The boys are cozy in bed. We are watching a movie. The house is quiet and calm. I’m so looking forward to some time off with my family soon. We are getting a Christmas tree...

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Positive Disruptions

Anger seeks the quickest path to release. It sparks, catches flame, and tries to ignite through the closest and quickest channel possible. What makes anger so hard is that it can feel unstoppable. That you are powerless to it. And when you fail over and over to quell it you begin to think that...

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Dark To Light

Sometimes we become so immersed in our own problems. We think things won’t get better. We get sad. We lose sight of the long term. And then suddenly we move past them. Things aren’t quite as hard. Maybe even good. And the transition is so subtle we might not even notice. Or take the...

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Could Be Worse

We all goes through difficult things in life. Trials and tribulations. Worry. Stress. Sadness. Fear. Sometimes we are so immersed in the moment that we become narrowly focused on our own suffering. And sometimes the things we go through give us perspective. Reason to be grateful. It’s important to acknowledge those moments. To understand...

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Something Small

It might feel like it doesn’t matter. That it won’t change anything. That it’s trivial. But maybe it’s not. Whatever “it” is. A hug. A smile. A congratulations. A chocolate bar. Hearing and seeing another human being. It matters. We might not be able to completely change someone’s life. Or change their circumstances with...

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My Mom’s Voice

The other night I had rolled over and closed my eyes for not more than two minutes when I heard my mom’s voice clear as day say “Margot.” I snapped my eyes open because I thought she was right next to me. I haven’t heard my mom’s voice in six years. It startled me....

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